1. You are NOT alone!
How often do we read and overlook the words, "... I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee." (Hebrews 13:5) as if they were not meant for us?
Our emotions are quite fickle! They make us believe that we are lonely, forsaken, and worthless. Many hard lessons will teach us that we cannot base fact on feelings! Our emotions can change with the slightest wind of circumstance but the will of God will ALWAYS remain sure.
Loneliness is a call from God to draw closer to Him. When that loneliness is fulfilled by God you will no longer seek human satisfaction and therefore will remain free from the pain and heartache it would have brought you.
The fiercest battleground is that involving the flesh, the heart, and the will.
My flesh and my heart faileth: but God is the strength of my heart, and my portion for ever."
2. You CAN make a difference!
A major source of the unhappiness among singles is discontentment in their current situation and circumstances. For that reason, they are blind to the endless opportunities and possibilities to be used greatly by God as well as to the current blessings being poured upon them.
Who says you can't make a difference in your family, your church, or your community?! Seek to have a Godly influence on someone at your job, volunteer your time to be a blessing to someone in need of physical or spiritual support, or ask your pastor what is available for you to do. The options are ENDLESS!
Just please, don't sit around waiting for something great to fall in your lap! Get up, get going, and help make something great happen!
3. You should CHERISH your free time.
Use the extra time you have now to develop your relationship with Christ. Marriage is a great blessing, yet it will add responsibilities and consume much of your personal time so if you don't have a strong relationship with Christ NOW, don't expect it to happen then.
One way to know that you are not cherishing your free time is by dreading every minute you have to spend as a single man or woman. Don't think of your single status as a curse, but cherish it as a blessing from God to have double the time to make a difference and do the work He has called you to do.
Don't think that God is punishing you by not revealing the love of your life when you want it and the way you want it, but use that period of your life to allow God to mold you.
That shaping process takes a while longer when we insist on having our way. God wants to use you NOW!
4. You must CHOOSE to cherish singleness.
The satisfaction of the soul will never be met by a companion. That seems to be the mindset of so many young men and women when they reach marriageable age. They often fail to realize that life does indeed go on after marriage, and in many ways it becomes harder.
Many times it is the lesson of a lifetime to realize that we can only be truly and completely content in God and God alone.
The seeking single will never be satisfied until the words of Solomon becomes the cry of his heart and soul:
"Trust in the LORD with all thine heart..." - Proverbs 3:5,6
If you're not content doing God's work solo now, do you really think satisfaction will flood your soul when marriage does take place, children fill your home, and your responsibilities mount up?!
5. You ARE precious!
Your worth is NOT determined by your relationship status! I'm pretty sure our society (influenced by Hollywood) has developed that mindset. The Psalmist sang the praises of God because he understood that he was, "beautifully and wonderfully made" (Psalm 139:14).
He lovingly created you, mercifully redeemed you, and will faithfully keep you.
God longs to walk beside you, hold your hand, and shape your heart before you ever make a vow to another.
Prayerfully allow God to make you as you diligently seek to walk in HIS way.
The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way.
Conclusion: This is not meant as a challenge for you to refrain from marriage but rather an encouragement to use this phase of your life for God's glory.
Written by: Sonia E. Vargas
*Some notes derived from Soaring Solo article, which was also made in pamphlet form
My name is Amber Marshall. I graduated from Free Gospel Bible Institute in 2019. I left Bible school with an overwhelming desire to help others, but, like many, I wondered how I could. This blog is my chance to do that using my passion for writing. I pray that anything that is published on this website ministers and blesses others!